Ever been on a diet—just one diet? Not likely. The pattern is more like 20 or 30 diets, often gaining a little “interest” in weight—and discouragement—after each attempt at paring those pounds. And that’s the way it seems to go, whatever the habit that keeps us bogged down in old, negative routines. Replace donuts with dice, drugs, or drink, and the picture is all too often the same—too many tries, too few results.

According to neuroscientist Dr. Karl Bailey, if your brain is powerful enough to get you addicted in the first place, then it is powerful enough to get you “unaddicted” too. People make dramatic midlife changes, master new skills, and adopt healthful lifestyles after years of wrong habits. They make positive changes in the way they relate to people after years of dysfunction, and learn to enjoy new friends, activities, hobbies, and foods.

All this human dynamism involves change—genetic, neuronal, and hormonal. These changes are involved in the ongoing formation of new brain circuits—and a new you!

If you’re doubting you can do it, here are seven keys for achieving and maintaining new, positive goals—keys that can change your life, for good!

1. Stay focused

It’s easy to get bogged down in the demands and details of the day and lose sight of your larger goals. Appreciating and focusing on your larger goals turns ordinary activities into achievements. Normally mundane efforts become adventures in learning and experience. By embracing the fundamental principles of successful living you will learn to eliminate hindrances to achieving your most important goals.

2. Set realistic expectations

The key to staying motivated is setting realistic expectations and goals. Evaluate your previous experience and current situation. What is a realistic, reachable goal for you in the area you are considering? Achieving a small goal is more valuable and rewarding than brooding over impossible expectations. Dreams can become realities or nightmares depending on the size of the steps! Remember—it’s a cinch by the inch and sweeter by the millimeter, but it’s hard by the yard and a trial by the mile! Little steps lead to big victories.

3. Expect challenges

We can turn our mistakes into victories if we learn from them, become more vigilant, adopt new strategies for success, and thereby grow in wisdom. Successful people are not mistake-free; they just don’t give up when things go wrong. Mistakes can be the greatest stepping stones to achieving your goals if you refuse to be defeated by them.

4. Maintain a positive attitude

Check those negative thoughts! To a large extent, we have the ability to choose how we will think and feel about a situation. Make the choice to focus on solutions rather than on problems. Look at difficulties as opportunities for gaining strength to meet challenges. Find a valuable lesson in every challenge. Most important, cultivate thankfulness, optimism, and trust in God in the situations you can’t change. If you are naturally negative, you’ll have to practice being positive. So give yourself time to grow in this area, but keep a record of your progress!

5. Seek support and accept responsibility

Spending time and forming friendships with people who have positive life skills are the best ways to learn new habits and ways of thinking. We become what we surround ourselves with. Social ties create mutual accountability and give us the opportunity to demonstrate and build responsibility and consistency into our lives. The principles of support, accountability, and responsibility enable us to develop deep and meaningful relationships with others.

6. Practice new choices

Extreme makeovers may work on TV home remodeling programs, but remodeling a life is a process that takes place over time. Fast is often fragile, but slow is steady, stable, and comes to maturity over time. It is the very slow, steady process of repeatedly making positive choices that builds—or rebuilds!—mind, body, and spirit. Never underestimate the power of little, daily, positive choices in overcoming big, bad habits. Repetition and patience are the keys to crafting a healthful lifestyle.

7. Connect

Circumstances alone cannot change the heart. The best of intentions can plunge to failure without the preserving power of prayer. God has given us invaluable principles for building body, mind, and spirit in His Word, the Bible. But recovery of broken habits, restoration of health, and renewal of hope and happiness come through prayer. God is personally interested in your healing, growth, and progress; and He will guide, sustain, and empower all who come to Him in prayer.

Adapted from the book Living Free, Finding Freedom from Habits that Hurt.